Soul Surfing

Whatever it is you’re facing today, no matter how exhausted, discouraged or disadvantaged you might feel, those things are only limitations when you rely upon your own strength. Take it from Bethany Hamilton and Nick Vujicic, with God all things are possible (Mark 10:27)

So stop fixating on your limitations and look to the One who gives you strength. And then enjoy the ride.

 

WAITING ON THE LORD

This is Nick. Several times a week, I see Nick sitting in the same spot in Back Bay with his camera, waiting for the birds to come. Where as I go tromping all over the place with my camera, chasing the birds (or chasing them off), Nick waits patiently for them. He sits quietly and lets them come to Him.

Nick reminds me of the students in Ashbury University who have been experiencing an outpouring of the presence of God. They didn’t go running all over the world searching for Him. They simply felt led to wait upon the Lord, to put themselves into a posture of patience, and wait for the Lord to come. And He did. He met them where they were at, overwhelming them with His presence, convicting them of their sin, lavishing them with His lovingkindness, and spilling over into the surrounding community.

So often, I think pastors like me make the mistake of thinking we need to coax God out of hiding, need to attract Him into our church buildings through louder worship sets and more eloquent messages. But if the outpouring of God's presence that we're witnessing on Ashbury's campus (and now spreading across the country) teaches us anything, it's that we can't force God to show up. And we don't need to go running off across the world chasing after Him. He's as present wherever you're reading this as He is on Ashbury's campus. He is the Creator and Sustainer of this Universe. Our world is saturated with His presence. We simply need to slow down long enough to recognize it.

“I wait for the Lord, my soul waits, and in his word I hope;

my soul waits for the Lord more than watchmen for the morning,

more than watchmen for the morning.” Psalm 130:5-6

Heaven Come Down

 

I can’t stop thinking about what’s happening at Ashbury University in Kentucky. A week ago, a routine chapel service at this little Christian college ended, but a handful of the students weren't ready to leave. They hungered for more of God's presence, so they stayed and kept singing and praying. Soon, more of the student body felt compelled to return to the chapel and the worship service continued. It's been going non-stop for 14 days so far, and now people are flying in from all over the country (and the world) to be part of it.

What is so striking is that there are no big-named personalities leading this. No fog machines or slick lighting schemes. There's not even an order of service. What is left is a group of students who are hungry for God. Not for more information about God.

God Himself.

Within the Christian community, we speak of our longing for revival, but most of us haven't witnessed it. Often, we don't even know what we're praying for when we pray for revival, we just know we hunger and thirst for more of God.

More of God.

That seems to be the hallmark of revival. In fact, Duncan Campbell, an Scottish Evangelist, defines a revival as "a community saturated with God." Not with good teaching about God. Not with cutting edge worship music. Saturated with the presence of God Himself.

I've now heard from a number of people who traveled long distances to attend the worship service on Ashbury University. They speak about how underwhelming the worship service is from a production standpoint, but how overwhelming it is with the presence of the Holy Spirit. And that makes sense. How else could you explain its longevity? When we are here for a show, we will quickly grow bored. But when we’re here for God, the quality of the singing or the message really doesn't matter. Even silence can be saturated in the presence of God. In fact, what's happening in Ashbury has long stretches of silence, but that doesn't seem to matter.

Too often, I fear the church compensates for a lack of the presence of God by fixating on the quality of the music or the message or even the mood lighting. Churches split over arguments about these secondary things. But when God shows up, those things don't matter nearly as much. They fade into the background as everyone turns their eyes to the King of Creation. As an old hymn declares, "the things of this earth will grow strangely dim in the light of his glory and grace."

Here's the best part: we don't need to travel to Kentucky to step into the presence of God. The King of Creation isn't contained within a place. He pervades this world He created, and He is fully available to any of us who hunger and thirst for Him. He is no more present on Ashbury’s campus than wherever you are reading this. And that means you can have an encounter with Him here and now.

"The Lord is near to all who call upon Him,

To all who call upon Him in truth." Psalm 145:18

LIVING UPSIDE DOWN

 

Following Jesus is not for the faint of heart. Contrary to what you may have heard, his greatest goal is not to give you your best life now. He doesn’t call us to comfort. He calls us to come and die: die to our selfishness, die to our self-sufficiency, die to ourselves so that we might find new life in him. 

There’s a reason why the way of Jesus seems like foolishness to those who haven’t yet decided to follow him. The life he calls us to seems so contrary to how the rest of society tells us to live. Jesus calls us to bless those who persecute us, pray for those who curse us, care for those who can do nothing for us in return. What’s more, according to Jesus, the greatest in His kingdom are the servants, and we need to be willing to lose our life if we hope to find it. In other words, if we truly hope to live, we must first be willing to die to the ways we’ve learned to live. 

Welcome to the upside down Kingdom of God. 

Though, on second thought, perhaps we’re looking at it the wrong way. After all, God’s the rightful King, we’re just the stewards that He entrusted with the care of His creation. So maybe His kingdom isn’t the one that’s inverted. Maybe we’re the ones living upside down, we’ve just grown so accustomed to it that we don’t notice it anymore. 

Consider for a moment the crooked ways of thinking we’ve normalized: we are taught to win at all costs, even if in winning we hurt our neighbors and neglect our families. We are taught to idolize the powerful, even if they use their power to benefit themselves rather than to help others. We are taught that in order to rise up, we need to push others down. We are taught to celebrate our freedom to do whatever we want, even if the vices we run to end up enslaving us. The prophet Isaiah had a stern warning for people who lived in this upside down sort of way:

“Woe to those who call evil good and good evil... Woe to those who are wise in their own eyes and clever in their own sight. Woe to those who are heroes at drinking wine and champions at mixing drinks, who acquit the guilty for a bribe, but deny justice to the innocent. Therefore, as tongues of fire lick up straw and as dry grass sinks down in the flames, so their roots will decay and their flowers blow away like dust; for they have rejected the law of the Lord Almighty and spurned the word of the Holy One of Israel.” (Isaiah‬ ‭5‬:‭20-‭24‬)

Isaiah’s warning is worth considering. Those who live contrary to the way of God will not prosper, at least not for long. Though they might blaze brightly for a moment, they will be destroyed by the very things they are most proud of, their so-called freedoms will enslave them. As Solomon noted ‬, “There is a way that appears to be right, but in the end it leads to death.” (Proverbs‬ ‭14‬:‭12)

It's ironic that the way of the world which seems so very comfortable and safe ultimately leads to death. Meanwhile, the way of Christ that calls us to take up our cross and die to ourselves leads to life that is truly life. We each have a choice: Which way will I go? To which Kingdom will I pledge my allegiance? Whose values will will shape my values? It's the most important decision you will ever make. 

Choose wisely.

ENJOY THE JOURNEY

 

The person who loves walking will go farther than one who is focused on the destination. When you are fixated on getting to the goal, the journey becomes an obstacle, something to get through as quickly as possible. But when you love the journey itself, both the milestones and the setbacks are a part of the adventure. 

When you’re focused on the destination, failure can be debilitating. But when you love the journey, you’ll recognize that failure is a natural part of the path each of us needs to pass through. So try something new, fail at it, learn from your mistakes, try again, get better at it and one day people will come to you for advice on how to do what you do. 

In a way, the journeys we embark on are a form of metamorphosis. In the end, the person who arrives at the destination will not be the same one who set out to reach it. So don’t begrudge the journey, because it’s not just leading you to a new destination. It’s producing growth in you that would have never happened had you simply stayed at home.

WASTING TIME WITH GOD

We often talk about spending time with God, but it's one of those things that can easily feel like a chore, something that we have to do rather than yearning to do. It's not that we don't want to connect with God. No doubt we long for greater intimacy with Him. But then why does that quiet time still feel like a chore? 

Perhaps it's because that time doesn't feel productive. We don't come away with a profound insight about God or ourselves. We don't get immediate answers to our deepest questions, so that time can feel pointless, like we're wasting time we could otherwise use more productively. It just doesn't feel like an efficient use of our time. 

But, as David Benner points out, "productivity and efficiency miss the point. What God wants is simply our presence, even if it feels like a waste of potentially productive time. That is what friends do together - they waste time with each other. Simply being together is enough without expecting to "get something" from the interaction. It should be no different with God." (The Gift of Being Yourself, p.19)

I wonder how our perspective of quiet time would change if we stopped looking for the payoff and instead looked at it like spending time with a close friend. What if we stopped carrying an expectation of getting something from Him and instead simply came with a longing to be with Him? 

This week, try approaching your quiet time like you're coming to hang out with a friend, and see how that changes your perception of that time.

The Shepherd's Story

It was a quiet, peaceful night on the outskirts of Bethlehem. The sky was clear and the air was heavy with dew. Several flocks of sheep were scattered throughout the fields, sleeping contentedly despite the bitter temperature. At least the cold night air gave them a reprieve from the flies that incessantly swarmed during the heat of the day.

Eli gazed out over the field, his eyes accustomed to the darkness. Though the moon was hidden below the horizon, the scattering of stars in the heavens provided just enough light to see by.  This was Eli’s favorite time of day: the sheep were resting contentedly and the earth still held a bit of warmth from the afternoon sun. 

He was laying on the ground, wrapped in his heavy wool cloak, using a stone for a pillow. His son lay nearby, curled up under his heavy outer cloak. They boy shifted uncomfortably in his sleep. At 7 years old, this was his first year in the fields and he was not yet accustomed to sleeping in the dirt. He would get used to it soon enough.

Eli contemplated waking his son to help him keep watch. After all, this was the time of night when the predators were on the prowl. But he decided against it. “Let the boy sleep,” he thought. “He’d earned it after a long day of chasing down stray sheep.” Eli remembered how exhausting it had been his first year in the field helping his own father tend the flock.

A cold breeze rustled the tufts of grass that sprouted from the rocky soil.
Eli pulled his cloak tight and began to reminisce about his own childhood.
He never chose to become a shepherd. Truth be told, he hadn’t much of a choice in the matter. His father was a shepherd, as was his grandfather. In a way, he was born to be a shepherd. But Eli didn’t mind. He loved being under the stars, surrounded by the sheep.

Admittedly, shepherds were looked down upon by city-dwellers. They treated them like dirty, uneducated outsiders. But he’d love to see one of those “civilized” folk give up the comforts of their straw-lined beds to spend even one evening out here in the dirt.

Even the local priest gave him a hard time for failing to darken the doorway of the synagogue, but someone had to watch the sheep. And besides, these sheep were being raised for the Feast of Pentecost. In a way, keeping them safe was his act of worship. Eli smiled at the thought.

Suddenly, he was startled from his reverie by a blindingly bright light in the night sky. It was as if the heavens had split opened to reveal a being clothed with sunlight. Eli could hear startled gasps from the other shepherds tending their flocks nearby, so he knew he wasn’t imagining this. But the sight of this radiant man caused his heart to freeze up in fear. In all his years, he’d never seen anything like it. He must be an angel, an emissary of Yahweh.

The angel spoke with a deep, powerful voice that broke the silence of the night: “Don’t be afraid. I come bearing good news that will cause great joy for all people.” Pointing towards Bethlehem, the angel continued: “Today, in the town of David, a Savior has been born – He is the long-awaited Messiah, the Lord of Life. Go see for yourself. This is what you are to look for: a baby wrapped in a blanket and laying in a feeding trough.”

Suddenly, a great angelic choir filled the sky. If Eli thought the first angel had been bright, this crowd was blinding. He used his hand to shield his eyes from the radiance. As he and the other shepherds watched in trembling awe, this angelic choir cried out in a joyful chorus:

“Glory to God in the highest heaven, and peace on earth to those on whom his favor rests.”

Then, as suddenly as they appeared, the angelic multitude disappeared.
Eli lay there in silent shock for several moments, his heart racing in his chest. Whenever he closed his eyes, he could see angelic silhouettes burned into his vision.

“Abba, what was that?!” his son timidly asked, his voice heavy with sleep.
Eli looked over at the boy, not sure how to answer. After a moment, he admitted, “I’m not sure, son. Stay here with the flock while I go find out.” With that, Eli quickly made his way over to the center of the field where the rest of the shepherds were congregating.

But none of the other shepherds had an explanation. Even Jacob, the oldest of the shepherds, admitted he had never heard of anything like this happening. But one thing was certain – the angel had told them to go to Bethlehem to find a baby wrapped in a blanket and laying in a feeding trough, so that’s what they would do.

Eli made his way over to the flock and, with the help of his son, they roused the sheep and began to quickly make their way back towards Bethlehem.
It was slower going with a flock in tow, but he couldn’t just leave the sheep in the fields unattended. So their journey into the town was accompanied by the confused bleating of sleepy sheep.

As the shepherds led their flocks through the narrow streets of Bethlehem, they began to knock on any door with its oil lamp still burning in the window, hoping someone knew where to find this child laying in a manger. But nobody seemed to have any idea what they were talking about. Door after door was shut in their face, and as they moved deeper into Bethlehem, they left scores of irritated people in their wake grumbling about drunken shepherds disturbing the peace.

It wasn’t until Eli knocked on the door to the village inn that they finally caught a break. The inn-keeper admitted that he’d turned away a pregnant woman and her husband earlier that night, but he said they might be sleeping in the stable where they housed the guests’ livestock. Eli quickly turned and motioned for the other shepherds to follow him around back.
He didn’t even notice as the inn-keeper abruptly slammed the door shut, a look of contempt on his face.

When Eli rounded the corner, he found a small cave cut into the hillside that was being used to stable the livestock of the inn’s guests. And there was light inside. Eli and his son left their flock with another shepherd so that they could come closer. As they drew near the entrance, they saw a man tending to a young woman who was resting in the hay. Next to them was a wooden feeding trough that had been converted into a makeshift cradle. Just as the angel had said!

Surprisingly, there were no other visitors, no dignitaries there to welcome the long-awaited messiah. Not even the local priest, who Eli figured would have been the first to find out.

They entered the stable slowly so as not to frighten the new parents.
People were typically standoffish towards shepherds on a good day,
let alone a young couple with a newborn baby in the dead of night.

The couple was surprised to see them, but Eli quickly explained that they’d been commissioned by an Angel of the Lord to come see the one born to be the Messiah. He also told them that their child’s birth had been celebrated by an angelic choir. Eli would have laughed at the surprised look on the young parents’ faces if he hadn’t been so overwhelmed himself by everything he’d seen tonight.

As he spoke, Eli’s eyes kept drifting back to the tiny, olive-skinned baby laying in a feeding trough. Was this really God’s chosen redeemer, the one the prophets of old had had spoken of? Eli found it ironic that for centuries, the people of Israel had been waiting for this night, for this child’s arrival, and when he finally came the only ones there to greet him were a bunch of uneducated shepherds!

He couldn’t help but wonder why God would have sent His angels to share the good news with them. Or why Yahweh would allow His redeemer to be born in a stable instead of a palace!  It was unexpected to say the least, but Eli couldn’t argue with what he saw before him. It was just as the angel had said.

Not wanting to overstay his welcome, Eli thanked the young couple for their hospitality and then he and his son began to drive their flock back through the streets of Bethlehem. But as they went, they didn’t go silently. That night, they shared what they’d seen with anyone they met in the streets. And as they made their way back out to the fields, they joined with a heavenly choir, glorifying God and celebrating the birth of His son, Jesus, the Messiah.

This morning, I woke to the sound of thunder and it brought me back to one of my very first childhood memories.

It was nighttime and I was laying on a futon in my parent’s guest bedroom, watching lightening light up the sky during a torrential downpour. I remember being awed by the raw power of the storm, the blinding flashes of lightening followed by the deafening rumble of thunder. In a world that often felt safe and sanitized, it was uncontrollable, uncontainable power.

My mom was watching the storm with me and at some point, our conversation turned to God. She pointed to the lightening and told me, “God’s like that. He’s more powerful than you could ever imagine. You can’t control Him. Can’t contain Him. But you don’t need to be afraid of Him, because He loves you more than you could ever imagine.”

As I lay there watching the rain fall, my small understanding of God began to expand. He was far more than some genie in a bottle that I could call upon to make my wishes come true. He was the author of Creation, the one who spoke the world into existence and who holds it together by the power of His will. You can’t control someone like that. You can’t dictate what He does. And yet, as powerful as God is, He not only knows me but He loves me. That night, in the middle of a thunderstorm, I made the decision to call the God of the universe the LORD of my life. And that decision has shaped every day since.

Now, almost four decades later, I know a lot more than I did that night. I know about the natural dynamics that cause thunderstorms, and yet I’m still very much awed by the raw power on display. Similarly, I’ve learned a lot about the one who created me. And yet, the more I learn the more I’m awed that the one who spoke the world into existence would call me by name. And that no matter how much I misunderstand and misrepresent Him, He still loves me.

He feels the same way about you. You may never fully understand God and you certainly can’t dictate what He does. But He loves you more than you could ever comprehend.

 

GIVE GOD WHAT IS GOD’S

There’s this wonderful interaction between Jesus and some spies recorded in Luke 20. These spies have been sent by the religious power brokers to catch him saying something that could discredit him, either in the eyes of the people or the eyes of the law. So they ask him a question about a divisive issue of that day:

“Is it right to pay taxes to our Roman occupiers?”

The trap is pretty obvious. If He says yes, the Jewish people would be upset. If he says no, the Roman authorities would be upset. So which way will Jesus lean?

As he so often does, Jesus avoids the trap altogether and answers their question with a question of his own. Referring to a Roman coin he asks, “whose image is on it?”

“Caesar’s,” they reply.

“Then give back to Caesar what is Caesar’s, and to God what is God’s.” (Luke‬ ‭20:25‬) ‭

Boom! The spies are astonished at his response and they realize they can’t trap him in anything he’s said. Jesus wins!

That’s usually as deep as my thinking goes, but Jesus’s response raises another question: if we are to give back to Caesar what is Caesar’s and to God what is God’s, then what is God’s? Whatever bears his image. Just as the coin bore Caesar’s image, we are to give back to God whatever bears His image. But what bears God’s image?

You do.

In the very first chapter of the Bible, we are told “God created mankind in his own image” (Genesis‬ ‭1:27‬). You and I bear the indelible fingerprints of the Creator. We were made by Him and for Him. This means that when it comes to giving God what is rightfully His, all He wants is us - every part of us, not just a small piece.

He’s not satisfied only being acknowledged for an hour on Sunday. He is with us in every moment of every day. He’s not content being invited into certain portions of our lives, the parts we deem spiritual. He wants access to every part of our lives, including how we invest our time and money, and how we work and play and rest.

You are an image bearer of God, a uniquely beautiful representation of His heart in this world. So give to Caesar what is Caesar’s and to God what is God’s.

Who's in Your Chariot?

When a Roman general won a great military victory, he was rewarded with a celebratory parade through the streets of Rome. This parade, called a Triumph, would start with the captives and spoils of war, followed by the general riding in a gold-encrusted chariot, then his troops following behind. It was a glorious celebration and the citizens of Rome would line the streets to witness the spectacle and shout the general’s name. But one unexpected detail of the Roman Triumph is that someone would always ride in the chariot with the general throughout the entire parade. This person would hold a victor’s crown above the general's head and whisper in his ear, “Remember, you are still mortal.”There is something profoundly beautiful about this picture. A person who stands beside another in their moment of triumph in order to both honor and humble them. We all need people like this in our lives. We desperately need people who can celebrate our victories while still being willing to speak the hard truths. People who care for us enough to build us up, even if that means calling us out when our ego is getting in the way. King Solomon, one of the wisest leaders to ever live, wrote, “wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses” (Proverbs 27:6). In other words, be wary of people who will affirm you to your face and mock you behind your back, but cherish those true friends who love you enough to say the hard truths to your face. To clarify, he’s not talking about people who just want to throw stones. The world is sadly full of critics who revel in tearing others down. Avoid them. But surround yourself with people who care for you enough to call you out when you’re being a jerk. Because while their words might sting, they are a testament to their love for you.So who is in your chariot? 

Dying to Live

Transition can be pretty painful. The weekly cadence of your life no longer fits and you’re left struggling to learn a new rhythm. In the solitude, your mind can wander down some dreary paths.    

Human beings are naturally resistant to change because it’s so uncomfortable. It requires us to step out of a place that is comfortably familiar and willingly walk into the unknown, a place which is often lonely and confusing. It also requires the death of one way of living so that we might learn to live another way. And while this process is both natural and necessary, it’s also incredibly scary. That place can feel awfully dark. 

And yet, if God has led you to this place, then you can be certain that there’s a reason. He isn’t in the habit of abandoning his flock. And He has this remarkable ability to work all things together for good. So if you find yourself in a dark and lonely place, don’t despair. Though this place may feel like the grave, it’s really the place of your rebirth. You haven’t been buried. You’ve been planted. 

“Listen carefully:  Unless a grain of wheat is buried in the ground, dead to the world, it is never any more than a grain of wheat. But if it is buried, it sprouts and reproduces itself many times over. In the same way, anyone who holds on to life just as it is destroys that life. But if you let it go, reckless in your love, you’ll have it forever, real and eternal.” - JESUS
(John‬ ‭12‬:‭24‬-‭25‬ ‭MSG‬‬)

Finding Rest

 

Lately, my shepherd has been asking me to lie down and rest so that He can do some deep soul restoration. And yet, I’ve struggled to do this. I find myself resisting slowing down, resisting letting a day pass where I don’t do something productive. I like to chalk this up to my personality, but I suspect it’s something deeper.

No matter how green the pasture, a sheep won’t feel comfortable resting if it feels insecure or unsafe. Even if the sheep is laying down, fear and anxiety can keep it from experiencing true rest. It may have a full belly, but if the sheep is worried about where it’s next meal will come from, it won’t be able to relax. And the shepherd may say it’s safe, but if the sheep doesn’t trust the shepherd to protect it, it will still be fearful of what lurks in the shadows.

True rest requires deep trust in our shepherd. As long as we think we are the ones who protect and provide for ourselves, we will never be able to truly rest. We will always have to sleep with one eye open. But when we recognize that we’re under the care of a really good shepherd who loves us deeply and is perfectly capable of caring for our needs, we can finally go off duty and rest.

The fact is we have the best of Shepherds. We may not know where our next meal will come from, but He does. We may not know what lurks in the shadows, but He’s fully capable of protecting us. And we may not know where He’s leading us, but He does. He knows what lies ahead and what we need far better than we know it ourselves.

So I pray that you would exchange your fear for faith in the one who calls you His own. I pray your anxious worrying would give way to a restorative rest as you learn to trust your Shepherd and follow His lead, even when He tells you to lie down. And I pray the same for myself.

Ambassadors

 

With the World Cup in full swing, one of the more compelling stories off the field has been the actions of the Japanese fans. Typically, when fans come into the conversation, it’s for their disrespectful or destructive antics. But following their team’s upset victory over Germany, the Japanese fans didn’t go trash the city. Instead, they took up trash bags and began cleaning up after themselves. And this isn’t an activity they do just when they win. They did the same thing back in 2018 right after their team lost to Belgium and was ejected from the World Cup tournament. 

What’s remarkable is that these fans have become just as important ambassadors for their home country as the team they came to cheer on, and by their actions they’re winning respect around the world. 

It makes me think about our role as citizens of the Kingdom of God. While we often look to the big named players on the biggest stages to be our ambassadors, the truth is every single person that calls Jesus Lord is an ambassador of our king. And how we choose to live, how we choose to react in both success and failure, shapes the way other people perceive the one we represent. Far too often we’ve been known for our bad behavior, for our pettiness, arrogance and self-centeredness. Sadly, our actions have often misrepresented the heart of the one we represent and have caused others to run from him rather than to him. 

We can all learn from the example set by these Japanese soccer fans. You are never too insignificant to make a difference and the world is always watching. But the way we will truly represent the heart of the one we call Lord isn’t by declaring our superiority, but by taking the posture of a servant. After all, Jesus did say that the greatest in the Kingdom of Heaven would be the servant of all.

What Are You Reflecting?

You were created for a purpose - to reflect your Creator’s heart into the world.

But reflecting God’s heart doesn’t happen automatically. You will end up reflecting whatever you focus on. If you focus on money, you will become greedy. If you focus on sensuality, you will become lustful. If you focus on success, you will become prideful. This is why Jesus warns us that we can only serve one master, and whatever we choose to serve will end up shaping us in its image. So give careful thought to what you fix your heart upon, because that’s what you’re going to end up reflecting to the world around you.

LESSONS I’M TEACHING MY SONS

1. When greeting someone, stand up, grip their hand firmly and look them in the eye.

2. Respect the ocean, but don’t fear it.

3. In a negotiation, let them make the first offer.

4. In a world where you can be anything, be kind.

5. If you borrow a car, return it with a full tank of gas.

6. Comparison is the thief of joy.

7. Choose heroes who exhibit great character, not just great talent.

8. You haven’t truly failed until you give up.

9. Win or lose, if you play hard and practice good sportsmanship you’re doing great.

10. Always stay teachable.

11. Choose your friends wisely. You will be shaped by them.

12. If you need music at the beach or on a hike, you’re missing the point.

13. Don’t borrow it if you can’t afford to replace it.

14. You marry the girl, you marry her family.

15. If you have the ability to help someone, do it.

16. When entrusted with a secret, keep it.

17. Looking before you leap doesn’t make your weak, it makes you wise.

18. Other people’s bad behavior is no excuse for your bad behavior.

19. Clothes don’t make the man, but they can make you look like one.

20. People always matter more than things.

21. Show respect to those in uniform.

22. Eat lunch with the new kid.

23. After writing an angry email, read it carefully. Then delete it.

24. Don’t wait until you retire to go on adventures.

25. Treat others the way you’d like to be treated.

26. Give credit. Take responsibility.

27. Stand up to bullies. Stand with the bullied.

28. Write down your dreams, but let your actions speak.

29. Don’t let others define you.

30. Be confident and humble at the same time.

31. Don’t blame others for your mistakes. Own them and make things right.

32. Emotions are not weakness.

33. Don’t blame others for not respecting boundaries that you have neither established nor enforced.

34. If ever in doubt, remember whose image you were made in.

35. Do everything as an act of worship to God.

This list is a work in progress. So what are the most meaningful lessons you were taught or you are trying to pass onto your kids?

 

POWER PLAY

Over the last few years there has been a heart-wrenching number of high-profile leaders who have been exposed for abusing the power of their position. From Hollywood moguls to politicians and even church leaders, it seems that power really does corrupt. And yet, I cannot help but wonder whether the problem is power itself, or our warped perspective of what it means to lead. After all, electricity is a wonderful thing, but misused it can be deadly. In the same way, in any community or organization there will always be a need for someone to take the lead, but when a person misuses their position to control or abuse someone they’re leading, their power becomes destructive.

Many of us view leadership like a ladder. The higher you climb, the more power and influence you have. This perspective fuels a sort of superiority complex, where the people at the top can begin to see themselves as more important that those beneath them. And they can begin to treat those below them as nothing more than a means to an end, as people who are there to serve them.

But that’s not how God calls us to lead. Whereas the world tells us that the greatest deserve to be served, the way of Jesus tells us that the greatest in God’s Kingdom are the servants of all. In other words, the ladder is flipped upside down. Rather than climbing up, we climb down and the further we go in leadership, the more people we have to serve.

Jesus didn’t just teach this, he modeled it. He lived a life in service of others. He cared for the needs of the hurting even though they couldn’t repay him. He spoke up for those whom society ignored. He restored those whom society said were beyond redemption. He even washed his own disciples’ feet to drive the point home that they were to live a life of service, and shortly thereafter he modeled this value in the most powerful way ever: by sacrificing his own life on the cross to cleanse us of our sins.

So may we stop viewing leadership as a means to achieving our own goals, and treat it instead as a call to serve others. Because if service is beneath us, then leadership is beyond us.

“You know that the rulers in this world lord it over their people, and officials flaunt their authority over those under them. But among you it will be different. Whoever wants to be a leader among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first among you must be the slave of everyone else. For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve others and to give his life as a ransom for many.” Mark 10:42-45

A Christmas Curveball

I wrote these words a year ago, but they seem as timely today as they did then. 

I never cease to be amazed at how God’s word, penned thousands of years ago, can speak directly into our current circumstances. Take the Christmas story for instance. It’s a story we’ve heard countless times before, especially Luke’s version that Linus recounted in Charlie Brown’s Christmas Special. It starts like this:

In those days Caesar Augustus issued a decree that a census should be taken of the entire Roman world. (This was the first census that took place while Quirinius was governor of Syria.) And everyone went to their own town to register. So Joseph also went up from the town of Nazareth in Galilee to Judea, to Bethlehem the town of David, because he belonged to the house and line of David. He went there to register with Mary, who was pledged to be married to him and was expecting a child. (James 2:1-5)

This is just the set up for the story. What follows are the parts we typically focus on: a baby born in a stable, angelic choirs and visits from startled shepherds and Eastern astrologers. But this morning, the opening lines of the Christmas story are what captured my attention. Because the Christmas story starts with a political edict that threw a wrench in Joseph and Mary’s plans.

Can you imagine what an inconvenience that edict from Caesar Augustus must have been? “Wait, you mean we have to travel 90 miles to Bethlehem at the tail end of Mary’s pregnancy all because of a census?!” I suspect that both Joseph and Mary had some not so holy words for the guy who made that decision.

And yet, despite how unexpected and inconvenient Caesar’s call for a census might have been for Joseph and Mary, it didn’t take God by surprise or thwart His plans. In fact, hundreds of years prior, God had prophesied that the Messiah would be born in Bethlehem (Micah 5:2). So Caesar’s call for a census wasn’t an inconvenience to God. It was integral to His plans. He used the decision of an unbelieving ruler to fulfill His redemptive purposes.

Which brings me to this Christmas. Because, let’s be honest, there are some governmental edicts that threaten to upset our best laid Christmas plans. And this could stir up a lot of consternation for us.

“What do you mean I can’t gather with my extended family?”
“What do you mean we have to wear facemasks if we gather indoors?!”
“What right do our governing officials have to try and limit our celebrations?!”

May I simply remind you that God isn’t spun out by this Christmas curveball. He isn’t limited by the limitations that we’ve been forced to endure due to Covid. And as the Christmas story reminds us, He even works through the decisions of unbelieving governmental officials.

So don’t grow weary or lose heart this Christmas. God is at work despite the disruption to our lives. And even though it might be inconvenient to us, this curveball may be the very thing He uses to further His redemptive plan in our lives, just as He did in Bethlehem 2,000 years ago.

Sitting with Another's Pain

 Many of us have a hard time tolerating other people’s pain because it makes us uncomfortable. So rather than sitting with them as they struggle and allowing them the space to process, we try to fix it or reframe the narrative for them in an effort to alleviate their suffering (and ours).

One gift we can give to hurting people is to allow them to feel without giving into the urge to fix it. Hurting people often need our presence more than our solutions. And, ironically, more often than not if we allow them space and time and companionship while they process their pain, they will actually regain their footing far faster than if we try to force them to their feet to make ourselves feel better.

Appetite for Self-Destruction

My son is addicted to Takis. For those of you without a teenager, Takis are a rolled up tortilla chip with a toxic blend of spices that are guaranteed to cook your intestines. My boy will eat them until his tastebuds give out and then complain when his stomach hurts, getting irritable at us as if we’re the ones who made him eat himself sick. Ironically, even though he knows his favorite snack hurts him, he still craves them.

It’s laughable, but then I realize I’m not much different from my boy. No, I might not be addicted to nuclear tortilla chips, but it’s the things that I consume with my mind that can get toxic. When I get in the car my natural inclination is to turn on talk radio, or to spend the final moments at night doom-scrolling through social media, and then I wonder why I wake up feeling frustrated and irritable. Perhaps I should take my own advice and be more discerning about what I consume.

What do you crave that ends up hurting you?

GRACE SOUNDS LIKE FALLING STONES

The crowd was out for blood. Some religious leaders had caught a couple in the act of adultery and saw in their shame an opportunity to trap the pesky rabbi who’d been stirring up so much trouble for them.

Admittedly, the leaders weren’t all that concerned with caring for the couple – their guilt was obvious and the law left little room for grace. Nor were they truly after justice. If they had been they would have brought both guilty parties, but they didn’t need both for what they had in mind, so they let the man go and dragged the woman through the streets of Jerusalem. She was the perfect bait for their trap.

As they made their way towards the Temple, curious onlookers joined the procession like spectators in a 1st century version of a televised car-chase. They didn’t know what was going to happen, but they didn’t want to miss the spectacle.

When the mob reached Temple Mount and they located the rabbi known as Jesus, the religious leaders forced the guilty woman to stand before him as they aired her sins publicly.

“Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery and, as you know, the Law of Moses clearly states that we should stone her to death for her act. So what do you suggest we do?”

The trap was set. Now all they had to do was wait for Jesus to step into it. No matter what he said, they would benefit. If he agreed with their assessment and called for her death, he would be affirming their authority as the guardians of the Law. But if he argued for grace, as they suspected he would, he’d be openly contradicting the Law of Moses and, in so doing, he would expose himself as a false teacher.

What they didn’t expect was that Jesus would remain silent. Instead of talking his way into their trap, he knelt down and began to draw in the dirt. It was obviously a play for time, so they pressed him for an answer.

Finally, after several moments, Jesus stood up and looked them in the eye as he delivered a very unexpected judgement: “Let any of you who has never sinned throw the first stone.” And then he knelt back down and continued drawing in the dust as his words spread through the crowd.

After a few moments, the first stone hit the dirt, dropped from the hand of an elderly man as he turned and walked away. More stones quickly followed as Jesus’ words swept away their bloodlust and exposed their hypocrisy. After several minutes, only the woman remained standing before Jesus.

Looking up from the ground where he’d been writing, Jesus addressed her for the first time, “Where are your accusers? Has no one condemned you?”

She glanced around at the stones sitting in the dirt where the mob had been. “No one, sir,” she replied, the relief evident in her voice.

“Then I don’t condemn you either.
Now go and leave your life of sin.”

*****

It dawned on me a few years ago that there was actually someone in the crowd who could have thrown the first stone. Jesus. He was without sin. He could have picked up a rock and thrown it and then the feeding frenzy would have been on.

But he didn’t. He chose grace over punishment. And that right there is the breathtaking audacity of the gospel in a nutshell. The only one who is worthy to pass judgement on us chooses to give us grace instead. We don’t deserve it. We couldn’t do enough good things to make up for our mistakes. But He chooses to give us grace anyway. And that’s what makes his grace a gift, not a prize we have to earn.

So if you’ve been holding Jesus as arms-length because you’re ashamed of the way you’ve been living, or you think you have to get your act together to be worthy of his love, may I be the first to tell you that you’ve misunderstood the heart of God. We may be guilty, but He’s way more interested in caring for us than condemning us. He’s not some self-righteous God who finds a perverse joy in throwing our sins in our face. Rather, He’s the self-sacrificing God who took our punishment upon himself so that we can be restored back into relationship with Him.

So don’t run from Him. Run too Him. Just know that if you're holding onto stones of your own, He's going to ask you to drop them, too. You don’t need to carry that weight around anymore.